My oven stopped working last night right in the middle of making dinner and I need to get it fixed. It involves digging out the warranty (I’m not sure where I filed it) and finding the number to call (don’t know where that is either) to get it fixed and then probably finding out that it is no longer under warranty and having to write a big fat check to get it fixed or even worse, replace it.

So for now I am avoiding dealing with it.

I am telling myself:

“It’s summer, I don’t really use the oven in the summer.”
“The gas burners still work” (True, but I still use the oven sometimes)
“Maybe it just needs to cool off and then it will work again.” (Magical thinking)
“I’m too busy to deal with this.”(Not really)
“Maybe my husband can fix it.”(He’s very handy but not that handy.)

Sound familiar?

Avoidance is something that folks with ADHD are really good at, but the problem is the things we avoid doing don’t disappear, they just pile up and weigh us down. We can become quite adept at tolerating the things we need to address.

The truth is there will always be things that you won’t feel like doing but you need to do them anyway.

Life is full of boring, annoying and repetitive tasks that we hate while we’re doing them but feel great about when their accomplished.

For example:

  • I hate doing laundry, but I love having clean clothes.
  • I hate cleaning out the fridge, but I love being able to find what I’m looking for.
  • I hate food shopping, but I love to eat.

So, here’s my plan for dealing with the oven.

Today I will:

  • Locate the warranty.
  • Call for service and schedule an appointment.

Is there is something you have been avoiding that you could take care of today?

Go for it!

Kathy Sussell is an ADHD coach in Brooklyn, NY. She helps teens, college students and adults with ADHD with time management, planning and prioritizing, getting started with and finishing tasks, organizing paper and objects and improving social skills. She is the organizer of the ADHD Women’s Meetup Group that meets every month in downtown Brooklyn. For more information visit her website: www.bravolifecoaching.com or email Kathy at kathy@bravolifecoaching.com

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