Decisions

decisions

I made the decision to do a complete bathroom renovation this summer while my practice is slow and I have time.

This is not what you would call a snap decision. I have been thinking of remodeling this bathroom for about eight years. There is nothing terribly wrong with the bathroom so I have been tolerating it. However, I don’t like the way it looks, the fixtures are cheap, the tub is shallow, the toilet frequently gets clogged and some of the tiles are broken.

Remodeling not only requires skills for decision making but also for, initiating, prioritizing, budgeting and planning all executive functioning skills that I struggle with. I’ll be the first to admit I suck at this kind of stuff and the number of decisions involved tends to be overwhelming.

Picking out tile in particular was terribly stressful. Some of the tile stores I visited were so disorganized that I went into instant overwhelm. I felt like if I didn’t leave immediately I might have a panic attack.

I kept looking until I found just the right tile store where everything was arranged in a way that appealed to me and I could visualize how it would look on my wall.  It also helped that the salesman was knowledgeable, patient and helpful.

Decision making skills are required not only for renovating, but for planning a vacation, looking for a new job or apartment and even little things like deciding what to make or where to go for dinner.

Here are some tips to make your decision making easier:

  • Narrow down your options. First figure out what you don’t want and eliminate those possibilities from your choices.
  • Create a deadline for a final decision. You don’t need to make a snap decisions but you should have a reasonable timeframe.
  • Don’t try to make decisions when you are hungry, tired, overwhelmed or supposed to be somewhere else.
  • Ask for help and advice. If you have a friend, family member or a paid professional who can offer their expertise, accept the help.
  • Keep moving forward. You don’t need to make every decision at once.
  • Avoid perfectionism. Be OK with the fact that you will probably make some mistakes along the way.  Have faith in your decisions and optimistic about the outcome.

Kathy Sussell is an ADHD coach in Brooklyn, NY. She helps teens, college students and adults with ADHD with time management, planning and prioritizing, getting started with and finishing tasks, organizing paper and objects and improving social skills. She is the organizer of the ADHD Women’s Meetup Group that meets every month in downtown Brooklyn. For more information visit her website: www.bravolifecoaching.com or email Kathy at kathy@bravolifecoaching.com

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