Confessions of a Disco Queen


I don’t like cleaning, dusting, doing dishes, folding laundry or putting things away. I am never in the mood to clean up, ever.

But living in chaos doesn’t work for me.


  • I’m so clumsy that if there’s something laying on the floor I’ll trip over it and fall down.
  • I like being able to invite people over without feeling embarrassed by my mess.
  • I like being able to find whatever I’m looking for.
  • I like having clean underwear and matching socks.
  • I can’t think straight in a big mess.

Getting started on household chores is the hardest part. I have all sorts of excuses for not cleaning.

Here are just a few of my favorite excuses:

  • Too boring.
  • Too tired.
  • Takes too long.
  • Not in the mood right now.
  • Someone else should be doing this, not me.

What gets me off the couch to clean?


When I need to get started my dear friend Donna Summer always helps me out. No I’ve never actually met Donna, and sadly she’s gone now, but I’ve been playing her disco music whenever I need to clean up since the 1970‘s. I hear her voice and that disco beat and I am a body in motion. I have trained myself like Pavlov’s dog. I hear the music and actually need to start cleaning. I do the hustle over to the sink and tackle those dishes or grab that vacuum, or fold that laundry. Donna makes the boring stuff fun.

Donna Summer works for me because I’m a woman of a certain age and a former disco queen, but there’s so much great music out there that can get you going. Music is universal yet personal. Experiment and find what works for you. What kind of music makes you tap your feet or makes you feel like dancing? The same music will get you going, push you forward, make the boring stuff fun. lift your spirits and put a smile on your face.

Kathy Sussell is an ADHD coach in Brooklyn, NY. She helps teens, college students and adults with ADHD with time management, planning and prioritizing, getting started with and finishing tasks, organizing paper and objects and improving social skills. She is the organizer of the ADHD Women’s Meetup Group that meets every month in downtown Brooklyn. For more information visit her website: or email Kathy at

2 thoughts on “Confessions of a Disco Queen

  1. Kathy, thank you for another wonderful post. I can’t tell you how consistently helpful and useful I find your posts. This is so rare in a newsletter. There is only one other I consistently love, and so I thought I’d share with you. Ostensibly, it’s about Leadership. But very often, it’s simply about better steering your own life. I find it really helpful in the context of ADHD, leading a family, and life. Think you and the group would find it helpful. Here’s the latest entry.


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