As an ADHD I get phone calls from parents, grandparents and partners of people with ADHD. They want to know if I can fix their child, grandchild, husband or wife who has ADHD and how quickly I can do it. One parent actually told me, “You got six months to fix my kid.” The “kid” was an adult who had no interest in coaching or fixing anything so that didn’t work out.
Sometimes people with ADHD call me because they feel broken, their lives are falling apart and they want to be fixed. They are about to be fired again, or their partner wants a divorce because they can’t stand the piles and clutter, or they have flunked out of college or grad school. They tell me their life is a mess and they’re in desperate need of help. I then explain that coaching is not the same as therapy I won’t be treating them like a patient. Sometimes when I say I don’t fix my clients because I don’t see them as broken but I will ask them to put in time and effort to make changes I never hear from them again.
If they’re not broken what are they? They’re stuck, and I’m an ADHD coach not a magician. I don’t have a magic wand and turn people into a better version of themselves. What I can do is work with and support clients as they set goals that they want to achieve and encourage them as they start taking steps toward creating positive change in their life.
Do I guarantee that coaching will work for everybody? No, but I can guarantee that I will coach to the best of my ability and that if you show up on a regular basis, put in a little effort, keep your goals in mind and commit to the process you will benefit from coaching and your life will get better.
Kathy Sussell is an ADHD coach in Brooklyn, NY. She helps teens, college students and adults with ADHD with time management, planning and prioritizing, getting started with and finishing tasks, organizing paper and objects and improving social skills. She is the organizer of the ADHD Women’s Meetup Group that meets every month in downtown Brooklyn. For more information visit her website: www.bravolifecoaching.com or email Kathy at firstname.lastname@example.org