I have been thinking about what it means to begin again, to notice where we are and take up where we left off and start over with love and compassion for ourselves.
I’ve been feeling like I need to get my groove back and what I noticed is that I let go of two important things that support me, renew my spirit and help me to maintain a positive attitude. Those two things are exercise and meditation. I didn’t make any kind of conscious decision to stop exercising or meditating but I made no effort to continue.
When I think of letting those things lapse all sorts of excuses come up in my head, some are valid some are silly.
Here are just a few of my favorites:
- I can’t exercise with a broken ankle.
- I can’t meditate when I’m in pain, upset or overwhelmed.
- I’ll do that stuff again but not now. Now I need to watch hours of reality TV and eat chocolate on the couch.
- I might be feeling lazy and unfocused but I’m surprisingly comfortable.
- I’m too old, too tired, and too busy to be concerned about taking care of myself.
How do I counter these thoughts? I notice I’m a little lost and I begin again. Instead of berating myself I visualize taking myself by the hand with great love, kindness and compassion and saying, “Let’s begin again.” I begin again with placing one foot in front of the other and I take that first step (even if it’s a baby step) and then another.
One of my favorite quotes is, “The longest journey starts with the first step.” But I wonder that’s the whole truth. Don’t all journeys start with a thought, a decision and a plan to move in a certain direction?
The next time you’re feeling lost I invite you to notice where you are and if there are some healthy things you have stopped doing you don’t need to beat yourself up make a plan to begin again.
Kathy Sussell is an ADHD coach in Brooklyn, NY. She helps teens, college students and adults with ADHD with time management, planning and prioritizing, getting started with and finishing tasks, organizing paper and objects and improving social skills. She is the organizer of the ADHD Women’s Meetup Group that meets every month in downtown Brooklyn. For more information visit her website: www.bravolifecoaching.com or email Kathy at firstname.lastname@example.org